Our social abode

                 OUR SOCIAL ABODE

MY mom once said to me- I have survived the society, kept up with people who wanted me this way, and followed every laws they wanted me to abide by. You are my child and you are bound to
follow the trend.
I was listening to her like a dunce, totally being unable to cogitate what she was talking about or probably that 'just been a teen' didn't want to pay any obedient heed to what was being
betokened at the very moment. I left the room with domain of puzzles though, trying to superficially frame all my doings throughout the day.

A week later, a relative showed up with this noxious look- a missile weapon of arrow, if I am asked to define, that seemed to have been projected, intending to deeply thrust into my esteem.
She sure did come up with ample preparations to leave me self-abased in front of my mom, which I realized after she introduced her first affront against me. Well, unless the offence was
exaggerated, all of her purposed contempts were territorialized within her sight of me and my best friend, who is a boy, passing by the pavement, holding each other's hands. And, what
happened afterwards or what was supposed to happen after her lofty scorns against me, need not be explained if you live in a NEPALI SOCIETY..

Its not a feigned story or any of such apologue through which I intend to excite wonder on you. Its just a mere reality of our social abode. We dwell in the society where a girl is seen with
scornful eyes of contempts if she is caught up walking, holding hand of some guy next to her. Nevertheless, the blockheads with those scornful eyes don't care to think who that guy might be,
 not even once and no wonder, as a consequence, whats questioned is her character as a daughter. Poor her, she frequently encounters those sarcastic reproaches and the most of contemptuous
 suspicion with the least of belief upon her. Just the other day of her commendation for being academically excellent, she is ousted. Why? Because, she seems to cross the preset boundary of our
 so-called ethical society which is actually judged by someone who has no idea of the mere truth, yet pretends to be a know-everything while the reality turns out to be something out of the blue.
 And here comes the situation where i think of using 'LITTLE KNOWLEDGE IS DANGEROUS' onto my statements over their unreasonably keen intelligence  and responding their comments with
objections. However, the thought remains only inside my brain because my traditional norms impede me in the name of 'respect to elders' despite the fact, whether they are just or hold
innumerable erroneous dogmas.

Neither recently nor several days back, this thought or more precisely, this realization stroke my mind that having been born in a Nepali society, especially, we girls can never explain our genuine
friendship with some boy, to the original survivors of this abode because their preset contrivances always draw finishing strokes before we could actually explain the kind of relations we
uphold - of friendship. Contrastingly, they misinterpret it with the name of love-affairs. I mean, is it necessarily important that a girl and a boy needs to be IN LOVE just to love each other
when the love they share could just be of friendship? Do people need to tag it with some silly and witty criticism? Seriously, I don't understand why people act smarter than google when they
are actually sluggishly insensible..

No matter how much we vaunt about the 21st century we have jumped in, leaping far from the stone age, at many points, we are still that creature who draws different columns for a boy and
a girl. We continue to be an illustration of a thick-head who still believes in the contradiction of BEING A BOY and BEING A GIRL.To the top, they, who seem to rule the society, rename the
rules that are supposed to be imposed on HUMANS as a whole, as that need to be pursued distinctly by a boy and a girl. For an instance, RIGHT TO OPINION is a fundamental human right.
Exercising so, if a boy speaks or argues on a particular topic he is discontent of, then his reasoning is considered to apprehension. To the contrary, if a girl does that very thing, starting at
her doorsteps, then she is bound to hold in her opinions without letting it outflow to the world outside because it questions her 'being a girl' identity or even her character. That's because
she is always known for her honey-mouthed character and that she should maintain for the whole of her life just to please the world outside.

In some nook of the world, there are countries, where begetting before getting married is not an issue and here's Nepal, where every eyes seem to spy over any girl-boy relationship with
an abundance of scrutiny. On any account, I am not trying to say that the perceptions that the westerns hold are reasonable and ours are not.Well, i would be offending my etiquette and
principles, if I said that the values being held by our society are unjust. All that I intend to inculcate in every heads of ours is that we need to keep abreast of the time and the generation
and draw a line to our skepticism. Probably, some of you say that thoughts have changed these days, people think widely and sketch everything to reasoning, but, is it really on accordance to
reality. Think with broader senses and I assure, you will realize that all that you think what the fact is, is just a phantasm because those who we think have complete trust on us, can have
their trust tremble in a second just because of some unpolished back-biting against us that they hear. Hence, at the ultima, we, adolescents are always pleading and begging for our elders'
trust  upon us.

Alike the ring that encompasses a finger, overanxious concern and unveracious reasoning have encompassed the range of vision of the people of our society and the prey is none, but us.
Is it really that hard for our parents to see us(girls) hanging out with a person who we call our intimate friend; just friend? Is it because they are over-anxious about us or is it because
they fear of the outsiders speaking irrationally about us? This question always bring me to asking myself ' Where does the trust they always brag about go then?' 'Does that set the
limitation here?' Nevertheless, with the most hopeful note, we will expect to be understood and believed for the truth we hold always and forever. In a nutshell, may the bond that the elder
and the younger residents of our social abode, never strain apart because of fragility that these kind of miscomputations might bring. The reckoning is never bad but the way is false.
Henceforth, its high time, we need to change for better in a comprehensive way so that all of us can sojourn in an adorned abode....